Just reading the title of this blog post out loud gives me real life chills! So, I meet this man online and we instantly hit it off? He has a heart of gold, he is such a gentleman, he can cook AND he treats his mother like a queen? You know how it goes, the way a man treats his mom says a lot about the way he will treat you. Now, if you know anything about women who have been hurt you know that we will sabotage something good, right? I didn’t immediately try to sabotage it but I was like this is too good to be true!I know most of you don’t know me personally but I have been through it when it comes to relationships. All 3 of my daughters have different fathers, I have been in plenty of dead end relationships, and I was ready to just give up and become the woman who lives in a house alone full of cats! Lol.. Let me back up a little bit because I got a little excited.
My dad and I are really close!(I’m his favorite because I’m the first..DUH) We don’t have many disagreements, I mean we argue from time to time but its usually nothing major EXCEPT when it comes to my dating life. For some reason we can not get it together. When we go at it about this subject I mean we go at it, like yelling at each other and barely speaking for days.. My frustration would come from the fact that no one was ever good enough and my past choices in men were always brought up. The mistakes I made when I was 18 and 20 years old don’t define me. They are what I did and not who I am.His frustration was the obvious. He’s a father that has seen his daughter get hurt by men time and time again and in turn this made him skeptical about anyone I brought around. Our last argument we both agreed that I wouldn’t bring anyone else home and that my personal life was off limits because we couldn’t find a common ground and the disagreements started to tug on our relationship. You go through life making mistakes and when you finally learn from your mistakes you feel free. And I felt just that….FREE
I started to see Ace more often…Of course we both have children so we scheduled our dates around when the kids would be gone or we arranged baby sitters so we could see each other. Everything just happened naturally. It wasn’t forced. I talked to my daughters before introducing them to him and he did the same for his children. Although I was on cloud 9 and living my best life something was still missing. The Mann family is CLOSE! Like if we all don’t hear from each other at some point every day its weird. I had slowly drifted into doing my own thing. Christmas rolled around and instead of attending our yearly Christmas Eve cook off, Ace, the kids and I stayed at my house and put on pajamas, baked cookies, and we let them open all of their gifts at midnight. These things begin to take a toll on what Ace and I were trying to build because he knew I was family oriented from the beginning so he suggested that I consider blending my dating life and my family life…Major brownie points for the kid!
We moved in together and we wanted to get our families together just to introduce everyone and kind of see how everyone interacted with each other so we planned a house warming party. What I didn’t know is that ace was planning to propose to me the same night as the “house warming party”. We set the party date for August 5th, 2017. A date that will forever have a happy meaning…In my mind it would just be a few family members, my friends, his friends and our kids. I would get enough food to feed about 30 people and that was it! I should’ve known something when he told me his uncle who “just loves to travel” is going to fly in for the party. Seven o’clock is approaching so I go shower and throw on some ripped jeans, a lil crop top and some slides. Throw my hair in a ponytail and people start showing up. AND THEY KEPT COMING!!!! I pulled ace to the side and was like “um why you invite all these people and not tell me?? I didn’t get enough food!!” He just told me to relax and asked his mom to pick up some stuff on her way over so that made me feel a little better. Our families are getting along great, everyone is running through the food, and I’m about ready to wrap things up. I’m not that good of a host because after so long I run out of stuff to talk about!! (horrible) I start washing dishes and I’m secretly hoping that people will get the hint…THERE IS NO MORE FOOD! There were people everywhere. The women were inside and the men outside. I noticed everyone coming back inside the house so I give Ace the “Bruh aint no mo food, and I’m all out of entertainment face”. I was drying off the cutting board and he grabs me and says lets thank everyone for coming and getting along and all that good stuff. COOL!
He starts this long speech and in my head I’m like Oh lord he been drinking and he is about to talk these people ear off! I interrupt him and let everyone know that my speech will NOT be that long and I thanked them for coming and I noticed everyone had their cell phones out????I immediately started to get nervous. First, I’m claustrophobic AND his speech started going from thanking everyone to things like “I thank God I met this woman”. “When I first met her she was broken, we were both broken”. He went on to say “I thank God that I’ve been broken enough to understand her shattered pieces”… I just remember his brother standing right behind us high fiving him and hugging him….The words that made my heart melt were “I can’t go another day without asking this woman to marry me”!! The whole living room went CRAZY and I pulled my shirt up over my face to hide the tears..Inside I was thinking this is what you deserve. This is the moment you have been waiting for. All those nights you soaked your pillow with tears, all of the doubt and fear of your heart being handed to someone and it getting shattered..it’s over!
I SAID YES!!!!
Looking back I’m like LORDT somebody could’ve told to wear a different outfit or something! I was dressed for a simple house warming party. None of that mattered to me that night. All I saw was him. I saw his heart and his smile and I was safe and comfortable. And just like that…
Im engaged y’all (real tears writing this weeks blog post).
My first date with my fiancé.
Wednesday we get into all the juicy details about how my wedding planning is going!!